Since I can remember I have loved fur, I can remember rubbing my hands over my moms shaggy white faux fur rug as a adolescent. She would fuss and run me out of her room only for me to return minutes later. As an Adult I realized that fur is just unreasonably expensive but that shouldn't  stop a girl from dreaming right?

Anyone who really knows me understands my infatuation with Pinterest. I can literally spend hours looking for inspirations from DIY projects to nails designs. I recently fell in love with fur in the bedroom as accent pillows.

I searched amazon and Z Gallerie and found a few for about $60 per pillow which wasn't that bad. I love a challenge and  a good bargain. Over the past few months I have become intrigued at how much I can save on a item but still getting the same look.  I made it my goal to find a pillow at a reasonable price.

I was able to find a pair of faux fur white accent pillows for $14 dollars at my local Big Lots and used a coupon for and additional 20% off which bought the price down to about $11 per pillow.

I love a good dupe product with an even better price and my pillows were both!

Did you find a bargain this week? Feel Free to share your bargain story with me! 

Fringe Frenzy: Fall 2015

Fringe Frenzy

Fashion has a habit of repeating itself and this fall is no different Fringe is here and I'm honestly loving it. I must say Plus Size retailers are finally getting on trend with current seasons. I can remember being two years behind the current trends and getting  extremely frustrated with just how slow retailers were when it came to plus size fashion.

New York Fashion week was full of  looks featuring fringe in various hues. Celebs have been showing up to fashion shows rocking fringe from shoes to bags and even jackets.

(photo credit: Fashionbombdaily)

I do however have a absolute favorite Celeb that has taken my fringe obsession to new heights....drum roll please!

Yes Ms.Williams showed up and showed Out with this look from her new line for HSN which debuted during NYFW. I must admit I want this to come in plus size so I can slay right along with the rest of the wold. Fringe can be both High Fashion and Hobo Chic it really all depends on the statement you are attempting to make. 


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I don't care for the 80/20 rule in relationships

As the weekend came in and I snuggled up on the couch I found myself watching Tyler Perry's Why Did I Get Married on the tube. In one of the scenes they introduce the 80/20 theory in relationships.
If you haven't seen the movie let me enlighten you on the rule. The 80/20 rule basically means when you're in a relationship you partner is 80% of what you want in a spouse. So You settle with that 80% and the other 20% you will never get in your spouse. It may look better but isn't because it's only 20% of what you're missing in a relationship.

So why give up your 80 for 20? logically it doesn't sound right huh? welp It caused me to think and honestly I say to hell with 80 and 20. I want 100% and dammit I believe I deserve it and then some. To say one should be content with 80 and forget about the 20 is not just unfair but not logical to me. Your spouse should fulfill you in every aspect to say the least you shouldn't have to settle for sub par because people say so.



So I'm just going to be honest and make a confession many of you may not know about me........ I LOVE LIPSTICK! There I finally said it out loud and I don't care who knows it. I know you may not think that looking at my social media accounts. I have three to four go to colors that I automatically just grab when I'm doing my everyday looks. That doesn't mean I don't own more colors from black to even yellow. It seems like every time I get one of the mac mailers in the mail and see one it's new collections I grab my purse and run out the door.  Only to ironically have them sit in my lipstick container or be given away to whomever raids my makeup box and begs and pleads for it.

My Cute Little Lipstick holder From Marshall's 

I have three containers for make up

I didn't realize how many I had  actually collected until I picked up the cutest 30 lipstick holder from my local Marshall's. I was in love until I started to organize and realized between lipstick and lip gloss I had almost 60  containers and that little cute container was no match for a lipstick addict like myself. I searched high and low for a reasonable bigger organizer that was both chic and functional.

Then it happened I discovered Bella Posh Oraganizers and went crazy with excitement. I was gifted the item and couldn't wait to open it and organize my lipsticks. I chose an all clear organizer but it comes in other color such as pink and black. I just feel as if  clear can be timeless  and can pretty much blend in just about any surrounding with out needing to work around the color the organizer.

I choose the Grand Spinning organizer which retailed for $114  other organizers on the site go up to $200 dollars.

The Details: 
Dimensions: 12"L x 6.5"W x 6.5"H
The top part  fits 27 lip glosses 
2 sides are designed to fit 48 lipstick. 
1 side has 8 spaces to fit, eye shadow, blushes or powder. 
1 side is designed to fit, foundation, primers, lip balms, nail polish etc.

The shipping was super fast and arrived in under a week of placing my initial order. I was expecting to wait longer but super glad that I didn't have to. When ordering online you sometimes become accustom to the waiting game. 

I have placed all of my lipsticks and lip gloss in my orgranizer with room left to add to my collection. I also used space for my eyelashes and pressed powders. I chose to keep my organizer in my bathroom and it fits perfect. It's not bulky or taking up too much space it fits in just perfect and did I mention it spins?  Yesssssss *jumping for joy*. Honey I just felt so amazing spinning my little organizer looking for my daily beauty products this morning. 

I will be ordering a few more items from the site maybe even the Queen Organizer and a Make up Brush Holder. If you are looking to upgrade your beauty organizer I recommend totally recommend  Bella Posh!




Hello Loves!

I know I know I have been missing and I do miss blogging which is why I am here today blogging my little heart away. I receive loads of emails from my followers asking advice from hair to relationship advice. I love the fact that my followers feel comfortable to talk to me about the inner most secret thoughts.

Which brings me today's HOT TOPIC: IS HE OUT OF MY LEAGUE?

Reader Meagan Writes:

Hi Afatgirlsblues,

I know this may seem weird that I'm writing you for advice but I honestly don't want to talk to my friends about this. I figured you could share this with other plus size women and I can get a true and honest answer. I really  like this guy at my job, he comes in everyday smiles at me with the prettiest teeth in his Italian suit and I melt. He is the boss not my boss but the guy that when he walks in everyone runs and scatters and attempts to look like they're working.

I thought it was weird he made eye contact with me a few weeks ago and asked if I wanted to talk over coffee. I turned red and denied his request out of fear I would mess up and couldn't take it back. I really cancelled because I feel because I'm fat and he's fit, I'm older and he's younger, he's the boss and I'm just a temp. from a agency. I really want to know can a man be out of your league or am I just insecure?

My Two Cents;
Well Meagan I think definitely you are having some self esteem issues. You are saying a man is out of your league because you are fat and he is fit is not a proper validation for rejection. He obviously sees something in you that you aren't quit seeing yourself. No one is "out of your league" you just have to value yourself. I say go out for that coffee and just enjoy his company and see where it goes. 




Yes.....I have heard all the rave reviews of the VSG surgery I grin trying not to appear annoyed with my Nutritionist. She smiles and explains everyone is doing it and yes my health insurance company will foot the bill If I choose to do so. I politely decline her offer to set me up for a consultation with one of Miami's best surgeons. She look confused, Why would a Plus Size woman that can get a 10k surgery for free not do it.

I guess that's what my co-workers think as well when seeing me uniformed, well pressed, and plus size. In my career things come in waves. It was just last year everyone was having Tummy Tucks and Butt Implants. I guess this year is the wave of Gastric Bypass. When asked by Co-Workers why I say no to VSG surgery my answer is always simple: I've haven't REALLY tried.

So let me me enlighten you on what VSG surgery is exactly.

The  procedure generates weight loss solely through gastric restriction (reduced stomach volume). The stomach is restricted by stapling and dividing it vertically and removing more than 85% of it. This part of the procedure is not reversible. The stomach that remains is shaped like a very slim banana and measures from 1-5 ounces (30-150cc), depending on the surgeon performing the procedure. The nerves to the stomach and the outlet valve (pylorus) remain intact with the idea of preserving the functions of the stomach while drastically reducing the volume. By comparison, in a Roux-en-Y gastric bypass, the stomach is divided, not removed, and the pylorus is excluded. The Roux-en-Y gastric bypass stomach can be reconnected (reversed) if necessary. Note that there is no intestinal bypass with this procedure, only stomach reduction.  The lack of an intestinal bypass avoids potentially costly, long term complications such as marginal ulcers, vitamin deficiencies and intestinal obstructions.

Now I do understand that everyone has different reasons for gastric surgery i.e. health. I however feel as If I have never really tried to loose weight, I mean I start off great with eating healthy and exercising but being totally honest that last literally a week or two. I hear all great things about VSG surgery but my sister has become my real inspiration. I have watched her change her diet  and exercise daily to great results. When she walks into my home and I see her smile  I know that she's happy with her results. She has blossomed into a beautiful butterfly.

I know that it's possible to loose a 100 pounds naturally and My sister is living proof of that. It was her determination that drove her to loose weight to conceive my niece. It was that same determination that pushed her to loose the baby weight  and more. When seeing her I know that I really have to give weight loss the natural way a try before I can lay on a table and be cut. I wouldn't be able to live with myself knowing I never really gave it a try before turning to a doctor.

My sister has learned how to cook differently and is ever so eager to show me her new recipes. I never knew you could make mashed potatoes out of cauliflower. It is these moments that I admire my sister the most. She is the reason I will wake up everyday for the next 6 months and really give it a good try.

I will be a open book with my journey and of course I will use my secret weapon aka my big sister!

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As Spring and Summer creeps in Denim will become more of a staple in my wardrobe. I am loving brands like Eloquii and Steve Madden who are stepping out side the box of the basic denim jacket. It's extremely versatile and can be dressed up or down for any occasion from grunge to hobo chic.


I have been dreaming of the day that  a tasteful denim jumper was created for the curvy women. This Summer both ASOS and 17 Sundays have granted my wish.

I have ranted forever how much I love jumpsuits and today will be no different. I'm a bit skeptical about purchasing a jumpsuit  because I am very bottom heavy and have fear that the jumpsuit will look to snug in my hip area.

I have reviewed the fabric and sizing details and have decided that if I ordered, I will go up a size just to be safe. In the event you have to return an item  always look at the return policy and be sure to try on clothing as soon as they arrive. I have been a victim of letting return deadline expire and getting stuck with clothing I actually don't love. 

City Chic Floral Denim Jacket

Edgy Denim